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Partying and Sharon Stone

Dear Glampa, 

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So Glampy, my husband and I have been hardcore partying lately. Like going out drinking and doing coke. We go through phases with this. We'll do it for a couple of months and usually only the weekend. Then we'll stop and not do it for years. 

Are we bad people? Of course drugs are bad but there's no addiction and it really does brighten my mood significantly

I want an honest opinion without being judged. 

Xoxo,

Sharon Stoned 


Dear Sharon, 

OF COURSE you’re a bad person, and I’d have it no other way! 
There’s a lot to unpack here, so let’s start at the very beginning. Drugs, like guns, are not intrinsically “bad.” It is the way people use them that get them into trouble. I think I understand the spirit of what you’re saying, but sweeping generalizations like that usually lead to trouble. In this forum, let’s strive for clarity. 
Secondly, addiction is a self diagnosed disease. The first step in any 12 step program is something similar to “I am powerless over my (eating, drinking, shopping, Judgement of others, need to post stupid videoes, self-centeredness, NEED to tell people who disagree with me that they’re wrong ... ooo, hitting too close to home. Moving on.) and my life has become unmanageable.” Only you can truly define what is “unmanageable “ in your life. It’s not about frequency of use, or how many times you binge a year. It’s about your perspective on what you do. 
The beauty of all that is, if something works for you, then it does. When something doesn’t, you have the power to change it. The choice is yours. Although it is rare for the decision to stick when one is forced to make that decision. 
Third, of COURSE it brightens your mood. Why do you think people do it? But, remember, drugs of that ilk are like Disneyland. Expensive and fun while you’re there, but ultimately not real. It’s a fantasy world and little of the experiences you have are based in reality. The shit in the pot is, while the euphoria is not real the repercussions almost always are. 
Be safe, and carry on. 

And, Sharon, I hated Casino. 

Kisses and nose reconstruction 

g-Pa 

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