Dear Glampa, I hate my job, passionately, but no one else seems to want to hire me. I'm still working at my first job, and have been there 16 years. I've tried a few different places with no luck. Should I just stick it out in my current dead end job, or keep trying until someone decides I'd be worth their time to train in something different than what I'm doing? Signed, Deadend Doris Dear Double D, This is similar to something I've dealt with my whole life. I want to be discovered like Lana Fucking Turner, sipping on my cola at Schwab's. Well, now I'm Lana's Great Aunt Frommet and instead of a cola, it's a whole pizza. And instead of Schwab's, it's my living room couch. To paraphrase the ever-wise Marianne Williamson, don't wait for someone to produce you, PRODUCE YOURSELF. What you're dealing with is something you have immeasurable power to fix. Stop waiting for someone to "train" you. Take the reins, sister, and ...

Dearest GlamPa,  I have fallen head over heels for someone I met online. Is that the done thing nowadays? Is it wrong to be happily planning a future for once my Spawns are grown and on their own? I mean, obviously we are meeting up in real time as much as we can, but most of our relationship is conducted on messenger and Skype.  Have I lost my damned mind?  Signed Internet Iris Well, Iris,  you're writing a man who dances around in a sarong and sings showtunes all day, for advice, so I'd venture to say, "YES, you've lost your mind."  B.) It sounds like you are talking about two separate things.  Is this a potential "catfish" scenario? By your note it seems as though you have actually met in person, so I am assuming you have. So, shall we move forward with that as our basis?  I know many, many people who've met online only to have a wonderful fulfilling relationship follow. I met my darling spouse on the interwebs, and we've ...

Dear Glampa, This rambles...... My thoughts on Sharon Stoned (see archive) .... it spoke to me on some level. I don't know if they're parents or just married with no kids. I feel like,  and it's something I'm struggling with quite a bit, is that we "grow up" and become "real" adults with responsibilities and mind -numbing monotony, that the desire to break free and experience some of the "highs " we felt when we were younger is tempting. Everyone's highs are different. Mine were soaked in freedom, drugs, partying, and adventure. My drug use, like she says, was strictly experimental with no real danger of addiction. There are moments when I would just love to get some blow and have a night to let the fuck loose. My husband has never partied like that, and can't now because of his job, but if he was willing and able....i think I'd enjoy doing what they do on occasion. Instead, I go camping with my college friends and eat ...

Dear Glampa,  Post anonymously please So Glampy, my husband and I have been hardcore partying lately. Like going out drinking and doing coke. We go through phases with this. We'll do it for a couple of months and usually only the weekend. Then we'll stop and not do it for years.  Are we bad people? Of course drugs are bad but there's no addiction and it really does brighten my mood significantly I want an honest opinion without being judged.  Xoxo, Sharon Stoned  Dear Sharon,  OF COURSE you’re a bad person, and I’d have it no other way!  There’s a lot to unpack here, so let’s start at the very beginning. Drugs, like guns, are not intrinsically “bad.” It is the way people use them that get them into trouble. I think I understand the spirit of what you’re saying, but sweeping generalizations like that usually lead to trouble. In this forum, let’s strive for clarity.  Secondly, addiction is a self diagnosed disease. The...